How to Become a Mom?

Newly pregnant and trying to figure out this whole new way of life.

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Step 7: Find your peers

Good friends are hard to find, no matter who or where you are.

We all remember how easy it was to make friends in school, because it just happened. We were thrown together in a pool of our peers and told to get along, which ended up in lifelong friendships.

But as an adult it's so much harder finding people that we have things in common with. We have so many more likes and dislikes than we did when we were younger. So many more requirements for what we want in a good friend. We're pickier. Or we, or other people already have a set group of friends. This makes the process much harder.

One of my favorite tools for finding friends is

Before Greg and I made our trek to Wilmington, NC, I took some time to start searching Meetup, yelp, facebook and other message boards for people in my same situation. Pregnant and in Wilmington, NC.

I was super lucky to find a group on Meetup called Rock The Bump (Which has recently been moved to facebook). This was a group of girls, about my age, all living in and around Wilmington, NC that are also first time mom's-to-be like me!

When Greg and I came down for a visit to Wilmington, before we moved, I met up with the creator of the meetup group, Caitlin. She was super nice and we seemed to have a lot in common (other than just the pregnancy).
Since we moved, I've ben able to get to know a lot of the girls in the group and am forming real, solid friendships.

So, yes, finding friends in your 30's is hard, but it's not impossible. Especially if you put in the effort.

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Friday, February 7, 2014

Step 6: Survive the Holidays! (I did it!)

The holidays are stressful, wether you're pregnant or not! 

There are lots of ways to get through them and make the most of them. But if you're reading this, you've already made it through, so congrats!

My holidays were a little chaotic, but mostly relaxing and fun.

At Thanksgiving, I got to see my adorable niece and nephews.
That's Greyson with whipped cream on his head after Thanksgiving dinner. 

And here's me & my doppleganger, though, I'm definitely bigger.

After Thanksgiving, we had a nice visit from my dad and his wife, Marie.  Unfortunately, we forgot to take photos while they were here.

Then, before Christmas, my Step-sister, her daughter & my mother all wanted to take a holiday-sights visit to NYC. It was a lot of fun, despite arriving & leaving during a blizzard.

Here's Greg after we walked 10 blocks and 2 Avenues in the blizzard to get this stroller back to the place we were staying. We bought the Bugaboo Frog from a craigslist ad & one of my friends (Jenn) picked it up for us. One of the worst things about NYC is that it doesn't matter how much money you have or how pregnant you are, if there's bad weather, you won't be able to find an open cab. 

This is us at the Plaza, in front of the Christmas tree. Greg likes to touch my belly in most of the photos that we take these days.

This was after a carriage ride & a long walk, we stopped into the Plaza bar for drinks and apps. From left to right is my mom, Greg, Jordan (my niece) and me.

Before the carriage ride, we went and saw Matilda!! It was SO good and my friend Anna designed parts of the set! Definitely try to see it if you have the chance. From left to right is my Step-Sister Karen, my niece Jordan, my mom Meridith and me.

Once we got back to Wilmington from NYC we had a few holiday parties to attend. This was the Ugly sweater party. Hosted by one of my preggo friends, Jennifer (pictured far right). I made my shirt and cut a hole in it then put a snow globe app on my phone and put it in the shirt. It was a big hit! Left to right is me, Rachel (she had her baby, Sienna, about 3 months ago) and Jennifer (who just had her baby, Hadley, about 3 weeks ago).

The holidays were fun, but I'm ready for my big (little) present to get here already!!

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Step 5: Don't Move...but if you have to (or really want to)...

Some people equate it with a death in the family or loosing a job.
I don't think it's as hard as one of those, but I guess it really depends on what your reason for moving is.

Our reason for moving from NYC to Wilmington, NC was to be closer to family during this huge moment in our lives. And because I didn't think I could handle the city while pregnant. (pregnant women having to stand on the subway cars is way more common than you think)

NYC is great, it's one of the best places on Earth. But nothing about it is easy and that's coming from someone who got to do whatever she wanted day-in & day-out. And it's definitely more of a single, care-free person's city.

So, if you're pregnant, and thinking about or needing to make a move, here's some tips:

1. Hire a moving company.  Yes, it can be expensive, but it's the best money you'll spend. Just make sure to do your research. We had a great experience with Big John's Moving Company.

2. Pick a place (if you have the choice) that's easier and lower-key than the place you're already living. Pregnancy is tough and exhausting. You'll be much happier if your environment is calm.

3. Find friends online in your future destination before you move. is great for this. Moving to a new place can be hard and even more so if you're lonely.

4. If you need to buy a car where you'll be living, check and find some cars that you can look at in person as soon as you get there. We did this and bought a car as soon as we got off the plane.

5. If you can, take a weekend to go back and visit the place you moved from a few months after you've moved. This will give you some perspective into your move. For us, it really made us appreciate our new environment and remind us what we moved for.
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